Even though many of us believe our past shapes our future, the truth is it does not. In some instances, it controls how we move forward because we allow it to have power over our actions.

However, we can relinquish this control by simply allowing ourselves to live life.

How?

I know many of you might wonder how we can do this. Honestly, it’s about removing the need to reference the past all the time. For example, instead of saying: “oh yeah, when I did this before, it went terribly wrong.” Go into the event as you would a new experience. Even though we have done it before, the past only repeats itself if we let it or have not learnt from it.

That said, it’s essential to remove emotional triggers from our life that continuously drag us into the past. Especially if it is a negative one as it will be detrimental to growth. I don’t say this to alarm or force you to remove items that are positive triggers, but as a tool for those in need.

Another option is to focus on the present. Give your full attention to the task or tasks in front of you. Instead of allowing the mind to drag you between the past, present and future, some people use a rubber band, mantra or deep breathing to bring them back.

Focusing on the present will allow you to experience life as it unfolds instead of a narrative made by past experiences or expectations.

Lastly, I suggest allowing yourself to do things your passionate about and want to do rather than worrying about what others will think. I know this is daunting with the social media culture we live in, but it is essential. Relinquishing the power that opinions have over us is like removing a thousand-pound weight off the shoulders.

Give it a try

Even though there are many other ways of living life and creating the life we want, trying one of the options above will point you in the right direction as you move forward. If none work or you’d like to talk to someone, I am always here for a chat. You can also reach out over Instagram: @alittlbitoe_ or via email at ethan.harding@fendr.life