Recently my favourite daily podcast touched on identity or at least the perception we have of ourself. Furthermore, what other people think of us. A topic that for some brings anxiety and for others just a minor nuisance. Thus it was necessary to express my opinion here.
In the previous post about confidence topics like self-love and believing in oneself Took the stage. Now I want to build on this by saying leave the story behind.
A story is the facts with extra emotion or fluff added to make life easier. For example: if a dog bites you, the story would be this rabid dog nearly bit my arm off or something along those lines. The whole thing charged with emotion and trying to express them. Rather than saying A dog bite me, very dry and to the point.
Now I know it’s hard to leave emotion or the story behind because expressing ourselves is human. But in some cases, it’s best to be factual and dry, especially when it comes to identity. Since thinking about our selves as emotions or one fixed way is limiting.
More Than Meets The Eye
What we think is not our identity what we feel isn’t either. It’s fluid and based on the present moment because we can be anxious currently, but that doesn’t mean we identify as an anxious person all the time. The same way with positive stuff like being happy or focused, that’s not only who we are.
Yet the only way to understand this is to say it factual without attachment or anything added. As the moment changes let go of that identification as a new one blossoms.
I know this is a little confusing and at first, it was to me too, but think about it for a second we can be anyone or anything. All it takes is the ability to do it NOW, not in the future or past. Don’t let frequent thoughts, emotions or anything be who you are instead be everything. Chose who you need to be to get through the situation.
The thoughts or emotions that frequently come up may disguise themselves as who we are. Yet, they can only do this if we let them, so let them flow through without attachment or energy. Remember, our mind wants to be in charge by pushing back and forth in time. Don’t let it!
We are whoever we want to be, the author of our own story! Never forget that.