Its been quite some time since my last post and apart of me wants to apologize for neglecting writing content for this space. Yet, there is another part of me that knows the time away has helped me make huge breakthroughs in personal growth as well as the journey we call life.
During my hiatus, I took a step back from everything that did not push me further in life. Things like partying, one-sided relationships, unnecessary clients and even my pretty serious relationship because all of these things were taking away from E time. At first, it felt like maybe the universe was sending me in a new direction or I finally fell off the deep end. Safe to say it was neither.
Rather, it was showing me how inauthentic my actions were over the past while. I was so far gone over the ledge that I lost sight of my authentic self and created a person riddled in stories and insecurities.
At this point, I knew it was time to remove all of the stories and insecurities through accepting that something was wrong. Not the easiest task, but it was necessary. Thus, I started doing things that felt right, which meant listening to my gut instead of external influences. For me listening to my gut meant spending less time distracting myself from life and taking the time to read, gym, and write more. All the things that make me feel fulfilled in addition to more family time.
That said, I’d like to tell each of you that no matter what’s going on take some time every day to do self check-ins as well as authenticity check-ins.
This is a simple process that takes anywhere from five minutes to half an hour based on how long it has been.
Start by finding a quiet place free from distractions as well as your mobile devices. Take a few deep breaths and begin to playback the past day, week, month or even year with all the experiences and choices you have made. While doing this ask yourself was any of this consciously done with you at the forefront or just a chain of reactions. Reactions in this context are decisions and experiences based on what is going around you, rather than actions made by you.
If you notice that this has all been reactions or at least the vast majority, then you have not been living authentically at all. This is not a bad thing, but dreams and potential growth has been sidelined as you react to the world around you.
That said, going forward aim to take a step or two forward every day by making decisions based on what you want rather than, reacting to the world around you. I promise that days will be a lot less stressful, because of this in addition to being a lot more joyful.
I am eager to expand further on this throughout all the new content coming up!