In business and life, we come face to face with short and long term choices. Pleasure at the moment or later in life, seldom do we get both. At least that’s how the saying goes; nothing comes without sacrifice.
However, the real question is what are we sacrificing, approval, growth, social life, friends, family or a combination of them all. Furthermore, is it a sacrifice or fear of making the wrong decision?
A war between the internal and external begins to wage as we try to take on everything at once. Dealing with internal anxieties leads to more external ones and vice versa. Thus, the fight or flight response triggers and we perceive it as having to sacrifice some things currently to avoid dealing with everything presently. An easy decision compared to the other, but this is where it gets tricky because it means giving in. A notion that I do my best to avoid, by breaking down the situation into manageable sections.
By doing this, there is no more sacrifice or fear of taking the wrong path. Rather a deep sense of choice and purpose through the decision-making process.
That said, picking a starting point is much easier said than done, amidst the newly broken down sections. Splitting it up into internal and external is not sufficient, therefore attributing things to pressing and less pressing adds a new dynamic. Not only for prioritization but for removing fear and second-guessing during the entire process. Furthermore, charting out a starting point, based on urgency and priority,
Moreover, as this process proceeds, you are in complete control. Everything is moving at a manageable pace, instead of an accelerated one created by the fight or flight response. For some, this will be a new experience, and for others, it will be a return to the natural order.
In my case, family and growth occupy the pressing section, whereas approval, social life and friends are less pressing. Accounting for these sections, allows me to focus on my journey as well as the people closest to me before other things. That way, as these situations are coming to an end, the others are beginning.
Creating this type of order has not only removed my fear of starting new ventures or progress further in life but encouraged me to take them head-on. With the knowledge that my foundation is strong and can withstand anything life has to throw at me.