There are times when our daily/ weekly business goals are not enough. We accomplish everything on the checklist, yet, there is no real sense of achievement. This was very common when I first started and it got me so frustrated. It was like no matter what the goals were there was always more that could be done. Due to focusing on the story that says today things change, I get more engagement, and everything starts to snowball forward.
Why Is This Happening
All of this is connected to the inability to accept the current situation for what it is rather than what we would like it to be. Therefore, losing sight of the bigger picture by wanting to rush ahead. Instead of realizing this is preparation for the day when the story comes true.
Furthermore, allowing emotions like frustration to be in control instead of remembering that this is meaningful work. This is the type of work that has to be built up properly to advance. A notion which is not easily kept in mind, especially during times when we assume we are at a standstill. Therefore, it helps to remember this is what it takes to get where I’d like to be.
Moreover, I like to use this as a reminder to be in a state of factual presence instead of a story-based one.
Story vs Fact
Story-based presence, in my opinion, is when we create a narrative on top of the facts. The story could be used to help us understand the situation better or to help us convince ourself that we are doing the right thing. A good example of this is when I tell myself that I can break my fast with a small feast. Rather than accepting that it is better to break it with a piece of fruit or some other healthy treat.
Whereas, the factual presence is understanding the moment without the added narrative. Furthermore, accepting that the only way to go forward is to keep pressing on. A very harsh way to view a situation, but it teaches us how to accept and fully live in the moment.
I know living factually is not always ideal, nor always possible but this helps alleviate frustration. In terms of business, it shifts the focus from asking what am I achieving? By turning it into this is just another step forward. Moreover, urging us to constructively use free time to learn new skills that will enhance life.
A few tips
. Catch the story: try to catch when you adding more on to the situation
. Lay it out: Understand this is apart of the journey
. Let go: pretty self-explanatory
There are a few posts in the pipeline right now about setting appropriate goals, meaningful work and much more.
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